Balancing Work, Relationship and Family Life
This is a crucial topic even at this time when it is becoming necessary to joggle more than one jobs/biz and there is high expectation for a successful marital Relationship
The previous speakers have talked about work, career, etc and there will be no need to spend time on that.
Without work (a legit source of financial resources and feeling of fulfillment) marriage/family life tends to be shaking as there is no true love without money
Likewise, there is no way man can reach the maximum level for his creativity and productivity at work if the family is unstable
Balancing Work and Family Life / Relationship
This is a crucial topic even at this time when it is becoming necessary to joggle more than one jobs/biz and there is high expectation for a successful marital Relationship
The previous speakers have talked about work, career, etc and there will be no need to spend time on that.
Without work (a legit source of financial resources and feeling of fulfillment) marriage/family life tends to be shaking as there is no true love without money
Likewise, there is no way man can reach the maximum level for his creativity and productivity at work if the family is unstable
A Manchester United player, Jesse Lingard, told the news that his dip in form could be attributed to problems within his family... So this buttress the above point
So the two (work and relationship) work hand in hand
Therefore, there is a need to balance the two.
READ MOREHow do we balance them especially if you are based in a city like Lagos where high level of Excellence is daily required at work and the lifestyle is 'too clumsy'
- Set your Priorities right:
Never esteem your career above your family.
Career has a lifespan, even those career that seems one can't retire from, there is a time frame for everyone to shine and it can't be forever.
But your family will be there with you from cradle to the grave
Once u put the family above your career, it will help you to balance the 2. But doing otherwise, u will never have a sense of fulfillment deep inside u even though you have a room filled with awards.
- Quickly settle the career path you want to follow, preferably before u marry.
I think it's Mankind that taught us how to choose a career path and he's written a book on that.
You may contact him for more info on that.
Why do I say this? A man double-minded man is easily tossed to & from by winds. He's unstable himself. But having made up your mind on a career path will do the following for you:
- help you know the kind of person you can marry & will accept and assist you.
- It will give your life a structure (I'll talk more on this later)
- At the start of every career journey, you tend to make mistakes, unstable because you are learning the ropes. You wouldn't want to unsettle your spouse and kids with what u should have done earlier before they came fully into your life.
- The way God fashioned it is that a man would have been in the field (career), working the garden before he thinks of a woman. So my advice to the single brothers, get a career first before marriage if not u will be unstable, pass the instability to your wife and the love will become sour
So it's better to set the foundation right by being in the career path before family
But what about those that have made the mistake...
I advise they should TEAM UP WITH YOUR SPOUSE...
what do I mean... Make sure your spouse (especially if you are a man) buy-in into your dreams and aspiration.
Paint the vision for your spouse in such a way that he or she's ready to support you all the way. And remember LET YOUR SPOUSE KNOW THAT YOU VALUE THEM THAN THE CAREER AND WITHOUT THEM U CANT TO IT - this is beyond the words of mouth.
- To balance, according to little knowledge of Equilibrium in Physics, there must be a fulcrum.
Here is the point, build an effective network at work, and within the surroundings of your family (e.g. neighborhood).
No one can do better without a team. The constituent of your team will determine how well u perform.
Have a great talent but bad teammates/ network, you will see how horrible you will perform in your career.
Your network will serve as a fulcrum which u can leverage on when storms that unbalance work & family come
This point focuses on maximizing the external factors (i.e. outside you and your family).
It is crucial. Other points include...
- Have time for your spouse and kids. If you don't have time for them, you will be shocked by how quickly they can bring down your supposed success.
NOTE: Not just time, as in staying at home. Give them what Tim Lahaye in his book 5 Love Language called QUALITY TIME.
- Give equal passion at home, as you give to your work. Once your family sees that u are passionate about them, you have passed.
- Be flexible. Don't be so rigid with your schedule of things. Allow a chance for an impromptu family emergency. Once your superior knows you are a responsible family person, they will give u chance for impromptus. Let them know your standard but it shouldn't be every time that u are making excuses because of your family.
- Have a God-ordained Purpose that's driving your life.
Living a divine purpose gives one stability and balance in every area of life. Make sure your job is a platform for your purpose, choose a marriage partner based on your purpose, let your family be a purpose-driven family... Then I bet you, YOU WILL BE HIGHLY BALANCED.
I think I have been able to remind us of some things and they are applicable and practicable.
But I believe you have been blessed.
Thank you Motivated Mankind family for your time
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