Dangers Signs In Relationship

Now understand that if you miss it in marriage GOD can still help you but you would have gone through many untold challenges.

It affects your productivity.

It affects you physically, mentally, it drains you emotionally, it is depressing, I have been in and out of depressive states,(thank GOD for the holy spirit)

It affects your Self Esteem. So get your foundation right ok

So let us go straights to the Danger signs.

• Your choice of mate must not be influenced by any pastor

Your pastor can advise you, counsel you, hint you, suggest. But you should be the one to make the final choice. Your parents can guide you. But no man of GOD has the right to tell you “this is your wife/husband.

The scripture says (Corinth 2v 11 KJV) for what man knoweth the things of a man save the spirit of man that is in him....

If deep within you do not like this person, please reject him/her

Even if an angel tells you, please ignore it

At the end of the day, only you will face the consequences

Now, let me balance it in case you are in it already,

Every relationship can work if the two parties involved are willing to work it out ok

2) Do not force anyone to love you. Don't say "don't worry love will come later", NO NO

Don't say " my love covers for us" NO NO

If this person tells you. I don't love you enough to marry you, pls move on

What you feel for each other MUST be mutual.

2)Pay attention to doubts in your hearts... please stop and clear your doubts

3days to my traditional wedding I woke up with questions in my heart, I was restless, I heard in my spirit" do you really want this? Look at this that happened the other day, have you forgotten this, that? On and on

The danger signs starred right on my face

I could not eat, I could leave where I was and my Dad noticed when he came back from work

He asked and I told him I don't feel like going on with the marriage

I was depressed

My Dad exclaimed “what do I tell my invited guest? I v invited the world

I went to my pastor, my pastor told me, it was normal, that this person loved me so much

Hmm! I am not blaming anyone now because it is his or her level of knowledge then.

I was very young and naive

I should have ran away.

My advice for you is, Don't ignore your doubts especially when they are persistent and strong

Do your underground check

Do your findings

Check the background

Where is he from?

Who are his parents?

What reputation do they have?

Any sickness in their lineage?

Who are his friends?

Has he/she been able to maintain relationships for 10,15 years ( commitment)

Does he/she really love GOD or just in church to get you?

Is he committed to his local church

Who is he/she accountable to?

What are his values?

How does he/she treat the waiters, the cleaners, children (people under him)

Do a background check please

4) Beware when your significant other have no plans, no vision no philosophy..

No driving force

First find out if this person has a teachable spirit, humble enough to attend trainings, workshops, seminars

If he/she is humble and teachable fine

But if he /she tells you, GOD is in charge of everybody, no need of planning

What will be will be...

Please run, Please run

Only GOD can change that type of mindset

5) Beware when he is praying on Monday morning

Prophesying on Tuesday

Evangelism on Wednesday

Making Money is the responsibility of every adult

Beware when he tells you his parents told him to marry a hardworking person

Just know you are into work all the days of your life for 2

If he can't find a white-collar job he should be able to get a black collar job.....

He should be able to paint a picture of the future with you

He may not have it all now, but be sure he is pregnant with vision, that picture will keep both of you going in time of challenges

Finally Excessive anger

A person who can't control his anger is a city broken without walls

Anger is good when it is channeled in the right direction...( I spoke extensively on these in my book coming out this month.) Please get a copy

I wrote about depression, anger, fear, criticism, etc.

Does this person break things when angry?

Does he/she let out your secrets when angry?

Your heart should leap for joy when you see this person

And please, if you are sexually  active as in, you have done this thing very well and knows all the styles please don't go looking for a virgin... don't get yourself frustrated unless you are willing to teach and patient enough  to bear

When virgins meet virgins, they learn as they explore. They do not know any difference they discover things and are happy.

Do not try this if you are not yet married though. GOD bless you