Dangers Signs In Relationship

I would be teaching on Danger signs in relationships, and how to avoid them.
I know some of us are still in church or out.
But then, the messages will be here waiting for everyone and you are free to ask your questions.
I am passionate about this topic and I will be using myself as a case study because I have a failed marriage.
This session is for everyone but especially for young ladies going into relationship/marriage because in this part of the world. it is a man's world, you are always at the receiving end, you suffer more when the relationship fails.
I would be teaching on Danger signs in relationships, and how to avoid them.
I know some of us are still in church or out.
But then, the messages will be here waiting for everyone and you are free to ask your questions.
I am passionate about this topic and I will be using myself as a case study because I have a failed marriage.
This session is for everyone but especially for young ladies going into relationship/marriage because in this part of the world. it is a man's world, you are always at the receiving end, you suffer more when the relationship fails.
Looking back I can pick points/ Danger signs that were so glaring
This is not time to blame anyone nor do I want to disrespect anyone
But will be sharing this so that others can learn.
There was a need to get it right from the very start, build a strong foundation because even the finest of relationships go through difficulties.
READ MORENow understand that if you miss it in marriage GOD can still help you but you would have gone through many untold challenges.
It affects your productivity.
It affects you physically, mentally, it drains you emotionally, it is depressing, I have been in and out of depressive states,(thank GOD for the holy spirit)
It affects your Self Esteem. So get your foundation right ok
So let us go straights to the Danger signs.
- Your choice of mate must not be influenced by any pastor
Your pastor can advise you, counsel you, hint you, suggest. But you should be the one to make the final choice. Your parents can guide you. But no man of GOD has the right to tell you “this is your wife/husband.
The scripture says (Corinth 2v 11 KJV) for what man knoweth the things of a man save the spirit of man that is in him....
If deep within you do not like this person, please reject him/her
Even if an angel tells you, please ignore it
At the end of the day, only you will face the consequences
Now, let me balance it in case you are in it already,
Every relationship can work if the two parties involved are willing to work it out ok
2) Do not force anyone to love you. Don't say "don't worry love will come later", NO NO
Don't say " my love covers for us" NO NO
If this person tells you. I don't love you enough to marry you, pls move on
What you feel for each other MUST be mutual.
2)Pay attention to doubts in your hearts... please stop and clear your doubts
3days to my traditional wedding I woke up with questions in my heart, I was restless, I heard in my spirit" do you really want this? Look at this that happened the other day, have you forgotten this, that? On and on
The danger signs starred right on my face
I could not eat, I could leave where I was and my Dad noticed when he came back from work
He asked and I told him I don't feel like going on with the marriage
I was depressed
My Dad exclaimed “what do I tell my invited guest? I v invited the world
I went to my pastor, my pastor told me, it was normal, that this person loved me so much
Hmm! I am not blaming anyone now because it is his or her level of knowledge then.
I was very young and naive
I should have ran away.
My advice for you is, Don't ignore your doubts especially when they are persistent and strong
Do your underground check
Do your findings
Check the background
Where is he from?
Who are his parents?
What reputation do they have?
Any sickness in their lineage?
Who are his friends?
Has he/she been able to maintain relationships for 10,15 years ( commitment)
Does he/she really love GOD or just in church to get you?
Is he committed to his local church
Who is he/she accountable to?
What are his values?
How does he/she treat the waiters, the cleaners, children (people under him)
Do a background check please
4) Beware when your significant other have no plans, no vision no philosophy..
No driving force
First find out if this person has a teachable spirit, humble enough to attend trainings, workshops, seminars
If he/she is humble and teachable fine
But if he /she tells you, GOD is in charge of everybody, no need of planning
What will be will be...
Please run, Please run
Only GOD can change that type of mindset
5) Beware when he is praying on Monday morning
Prophesying on Tuesday
Evangelism on Wednesday
Making Money is the responsibility of every adult
Beware when he tells you his parents told him to marry a hardworking person
Just know you are into work all the days of your life for 2
If he can't find a white-collar job he should be able to get a black collar job.....
He should be able to paint a picture of the future with you
He may not have it all now, but be sure he is pregnant with vision, that picture will keep both of you going in time of challenges
Finally Excessive anger
A person who can't control his anger is a city broken without walls
Anger is good when it is channeled in the right direction...( I spoke extensively on these in my book coming out this month.) Please get a copy
I wrote about depression, anger, fear, criticism, etc.
Does this person break things when angry?
Does he/she let out your secrets when angry?
Your heart should leap for joy when you see this person
And please, if you are sexually active as in, you have done this thing very well and knows all the styles please don't go looking for a virgin... don't get yourself frustrated unless you are willing to teach and patient enough to bear
When virgins meet virgins, they learn as they explore. They do not know any difference they discover things and are happy.
Do not try this if you are not yet married though. GOD bless you
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