Love for Self

Self love is more than just saying you like yourself. It is accepting and loving yourself unconditionally including the days you didn't behave your best.

You want people to love you and make you happy. Its good but remember we were created by one same God and He has put that thirst in everyone.

Everyone is searching and looking for acceptance but how do you arrive at a point where you know you have to be your own biggest fan?

Sometimes you go out of your way for people even when it's hurting you. I'm not saying it's bad to sacrifice for people but you hurt and neglect yourself because you want to meet up and want their good opinion of you.

Let me tell you a truly life experience about me. As a child growing up. I hard it really rough. I never had a mum or dad's love. Mum and dad separated when I was barely two years.

I lived with people who made me feel I was useless and I'm a mistake. Then the struggle started.

Then I started feeling I can never be good enough. I found it difficult to fit in and accept myself for who I was.

They said words to me that got into me. I had to battle it even in my relationship. I usually feel I needed to sacrifice my all before I can be accepted.

I wanted someone to tell me am beautiful, I look good even the relationship I had I was still looking for approval.

Sometimes I become so depressed because I just feel I will never be good enough.

I didn't love myself and even when I ought to take care of myself, I would neglect me and take care of others because I feel it will make them accept me.

But I came to a point in my life that I realized my happiness lies in God and in me because the other party am expecting acceptance from is also human and whether I like it or not, they can never be for me 100%.

When you don't love yourself, you end up choking people around you because you will always want them to be who they can not be to you.

Firstly you must come to accept the fact that you deserve to be loved by you. You can never give out what you've not received.

If you have given yourself love, you will find it less of a burden to give it out to someone else and you won't be expecting them to feel a vacuum. You will see their love as an addition to what you already have.

The bible says love your neighbour as you love yourself meaning self love is the basis for loving someone else.

If you have not falling in love with yourself, it might be difficult for relationship with people to work out because you choke them with the responsibility of love.

You are a creature that was molded completely with nothing missing. If God knew you weren't enough, He wouldn't send you here. Your mission is different so is your uniqueness.

Don't you ever for once feel you are not complete. Most times the battle for self love doesn't start in a day. It is built over the years with words we hear, environment we find ourselves, the relationship we've hard etc. Meaning loving yourself starts from how you see yourself within.

But remember the bible talks about strongholds. Strongholds are not necessarily reminds but wrong belief system that has been built up in our minds.You need to start the realization of yourself worth from your mind.

Firstly know you are wonderfully made so the next time you feel you don't look good enough etc, let it stick in your head that you are wonderfully made.

When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, what comes to your mind? Oh God have added weight, am having pimples, I'm having dark circles, I'm not as handsome as that guy at work. Oops... Drop that king and queen. You are a perfect reflection of a complete work.

Say good things to yourself and don't expect people's approval. When you finish dressing in the morning, say good things about yourself because remember if you are expecting to go out and expect people to say you look good or you smell nice, well, what if nobody does or notices you because it's a busy world. Then you spend the whole day feeling like probably you don't look good enough or something is wrong about you. If you keep looking for people's approval, you will die of their rejection.

Don't you ever give people the power to determine how you feel about yourself because you will end up been depressed.

You sometimes feel someone's life is better than yours and you start the comparison. Well, let me announce to you that don't mistake journey for destination and also note that destinations are different.

For the men in this house, don't feel you are not man enough because you haven't gotten to where you want to be. Remember where you are was once where you prayed for.

Don't let the society preach to you what it means to be a man and end up getting another route that will make you arrive earlier than God's set time.

How do you feel when the following listed below happens?

Here are a few situations in which you
should keep awareness of :
When you wake up and look in the mirror
When you get scolded by your boss
When somebody is mean to you
When you are mean to someone
When you act on your anger
When you see a person in need but you
keep walking without helping them
When you put on weight
When you make a mistake at work
When you eat some unhealthy food
When you skip your work-out session
When you lie to somebody
When you make someone cry
When you feel lazy
When you rest

Are you still loving and caring towards yourself in all these moment?

How do you feel about yourself in your moment of strength and weakness?

What do you do when you love someone? Think of your parents, siblings, a lover or a best friend.

Do you get them gifts?

Do you take them out on a date?

Do you pay for them?

Do you spend quality time together?

Love is a feeling, and love is a verb. Love is just as much about feeling as it is about doing! So now is the time to do something loving for yourself. Think of all the things you enjoy, that bring you pleasure. And simply do them with yourself.

After all said and done , take deliberate steps into loving yourself. You also deserve all the love you've been trying to give out. Pay attention to yourself.

Do you know why you've not discovered beautiful things about you? It's because you've given yourself the same attention you've been given to someone else.

When you love yourself, loving others and people loving you becomes easier and you become happier.